Anonymous said: So I just found out there's a term 'same sex attractions' or SSA. The correct syntax is "I have SSA." I'm SUPER offended, sounds like a disease. Have you ever heard it? From what I've found from it, it's the 'pray away the gay' way of saying SSA is natural, but being homosexual is unnatural so we'll heal you. I would either stay closeted forever, or come out (like I'm doing), not admit I have SSA but then still try to pray away the gay. What's your opinion? You're basically my gay-God guru.
So the only context in which I have ever heard “SSA” is in highly pretentious academic settings, and yes, in religious settings. I was raised Catholic (but left for obvious reasons) and the way it was taught to me is that same sex attractions are, in themselves, morally neutral, but to act on them is morally wrong. I don’t buy that bullshit. You cannot pray away something which makes you who you are. There is no commandment that says “You will not be gay.” But there is a commandment that says “You will not bear false witness.” You were created by God, in God’s image. To not be the full version of the person God created, you are denying the world that part of you which God needs in order for the world to better understand God. That is the sin, not being attracted to one person more than another. Suppressing a natural and beautiful part of who you are is never a good idea and anyone who tells you otherwise is wrong.
I believe that we are attracted to people, not bodies. No sexuality based in the mutual consent of adults is unnatural, wrong, or deviant. You should identify yourself by whatever term feels most comfortable and most authentic to who God creates you to be, everyday. Personally, I find the term ‘queer’ to be most liberating. It is not attached to my physical person or to the body of my partner, but to a lived reality.
If you need any resources or open and affirming churches, congregations, or support groups, please reach out to me. It pains me to think that a person would deny him/her/them-self the joy and beauty and love of being in a committed relationship.